My love-hate relationship with technology

Karima Lanfranco

In our lifetimes, millennials have revolutionized the tech landscape and have seen the digital age come to its peak. We’ve tweeted and hashtagged and selfied our way through the majority of our adolescence and young adulthood. And now, we’re starting families.

What does that look like?

More than ever, I am glad Giancarlo and I are off social media. We found it to be distracting and overwhelming. As if pressures from family and friends aren’t strong enough, it was too much having to deal with every keyboard-warrior’s opinion about parenting (and their lack of fear to share it with us!).

So, we cut out the noise. On the flip side, keeping in touch with said family and friends takes a little more deliberate effort now, and we do often feel out of the loop when someone references a post or a video we haven’t seen.

But just because we don’t use Facebook or Instagram doesn’t mean technology is dead to us. While I was pregnant, we used Pinterest to inspire Isabella’s nursery decor. When she was a newborn, I tracked her baby feedings, diaper changes, and naps with an app (because my brain couldn’t store that information at 2:00 a.m.). I also spent a good thirty minutes on TheBump.com mentally Venn-diagramming the best versus the most affordable types of baby wipes — without chemicals of course (because who wants diaper rash?).

I found a slice of internet-paradise in LifeCake.com, and we use it to upload our pictures every week to a personal site only family and friends can access. I shop online for home and baby essentials using Amazon’s Subscribe & Save feature to set up recurring deliveries (so I don’t ever have to worry about running out of diapers or toilet paper). And I used Amazon Prime’s free, same-day shipping for an emergency batch of diapers when I first forgot to set up the subscription.

Unfortunately, this can also be wildly unhelpful. (See: Information Overload.) The problem isn’t in the acquiring of information; it’s in the filtering — and more importantly, the discarding — of it. Sometimes, having so much information readily accessible can make every decision a monumental one.

Soon enough, I’ll also have to decide on the relationship that my baby will have with the technology. She can already see (and is fascinated by) the glow of the phone’s screen. Do I allow her to watch videos on YouTube? How much TV time is okay? Is it healthy to play games on a device?

Everything in moderation, I’m sure.

But it’s a struggle that our parents didn’t have, and one that is unfolding for all of us. When the time comes, I’ll have to decide whether to Google the best approach and find the answer online, or, even better yet — maybe I’ll ask. There’s something invaluable about just asking another mom.

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